The Elusive Cervical Orgasm
by Cyntha Gonzalez
It’s been said that something is discovered when the consciousness of the collective is ready for it. When I grew up in the 60s and 70s, the sexual revolution gave birth to the Pill and awareness of the G-spot. However back then, cervical orgasms were never mentioned, even though ancient Tao masters had written of them centuries before. Today, with our growing sexual, emotional and spiritual evolution, it seems we are ripe for the awareness cervical orgasms are just beginning to receive.
Now that I’ve experienced them, I can declare that they are life changing. I encourage regular travel to the land of the cervix and to allow these unique and rare orgasms, a chance to transform you. I like them because they demand the best out of my partner and me. The process of attaining them is high spiritual practice. Heart and Soul are active, essential participants.
Once we have passed the gates of clitoral and G-spot orgasms, deeper territories beckon that are fraught with risk and promising possibility. But like any truly demanding endeavour, whether starting a new business, scaling Mt. Everest or conceiving an IVF baby, the pursuit of a cervical orgasm requires devotion and self-honesty. Let’s review the other two orgasms first.
Clitoral orgasms are more superficial and require a build-up of stimulation – usually a finger or tongue. They are the entry point of my surrender to orgasm. My partner’s presence may take me over the tipping point. Or I may resort to fantasy, because deep down I am still unable to receive my lover’s deepest penetration of wild love due to my distrust or his lack of full presence.
G-spot (or vaginal) orgasms are subtler. The G-spot is on the inside, about 2 inches into the vagina, behind the pubic bone. It is usually a ridged, textured area, which when stimulated for a good 20-30 minutes in a ‘come here’ motion, can lead to rich, vaginal orgasms that are deeper and more opening than the clitoral orgasm. Unexpressed emotion and trauma held in the vagina will be potentially activated.
Cervix means neck in Latin (as in cervical vertebrae) and is a 2-3 cm long passageway with an extremely sensitive opening at the top of the vagina leading into the uterus. This is what opens with uterine contractions during labor to allow the baby to come down through. It is an organ of surrender. If you are woman reading this, visualize your cervix, connect and feel it and will it to soften and open just that bit. Of all the orgasms, orgasms in the cervix are said to be the most profound. They are considered the heart orgasm. The stimulation of the opening of the cervix during connected lovemaking can lead to mystical experiences. Why is this?
Cervical orgasm goes beyond genital pleasure and emotional connection. It demands surrender by my lover and myself. It asks me to let love in. It asks me to settle for nothing less. It asks me to express my uncomfortable, gnawing truth. It asks me to grieve and forgive long held pain and betrayal from either my existing lover or someone else. It asks me to trust whatever turbulent emotional wave is cresting on the journey to full letting go and rapturous communion.
It asks my lover to stay with me as I ride that daunting wave with his heart open and his full, surrendered presence. My surrender demands his entirety. If he fluctuates his presence for a second, I feel dropped and unsafe. If he doesn’t come back, I howl. If he holds back or gives me anything less than real, I shut down. I close. Stay present. Trust my tumultuous, intense emotions. Call me back…to my rising, swelling depths, ready to explode – on us.
This organ of surrender will have to be reassured by you, as the one I let in. If I suddenly remember any hurt you have inflicted on me – grand or petit – and I shout it out, will you hear me? Will you trust my heightened sensitivity and tell me, “I’m sorry,” and mean it? And then stay close for the unbridled love that eventually will gush forth in tumbling avalanches of flow and all-consuming bliss?
Let’s say I have reached a place, for the time being, where I have expressed my share of long held pain. My cervix softens more and more and is no longer painfully sensitive. You warm me up. We go for hours. I can take your mounting thrusts like never before. I now long for them. I begin to experiment with opening past pain in love. I no longer know where my cervix begins and my heart ends. Cervical orgasms break me open. And for days I stay open.
The cervix is connected to the crown chakra or the spiritual gateway at the top of the head via our subtle energy pathway. I am asked to open – open my legs, open my vagina, open my cervix, open my heart and open my being to Love itself. The height of this opening leads to continuous orgasms that break past every defense, every protection and every barrier to cascading love. I know that my next step is to ultimately not be dependent on them – but to open and stay open – beyond the body-shattering lovemaking that initially brought me here – and be Love itself.
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